Being a parent is a very difficult and responsible job, but an even more difficult role is to be a stepmother or stepfather because no matter how hard you try to guarantee that you will create a harmonious and happy family, that does not exist. Biological parents are not burdened by the fact that children’s trust should be deserved because their children unconditionally believe them and are ready to forgive them their mistakes.
At first, you will probably feel off, but you need to be patient. Do not allow the stepchildren to be rude, nor do you give them everything. But do not try to conduct discipline from the first day. At first, the house discipline falls on a biological parent. Your only job is to establish a good relationship with children with mutual trust and respect.
How to Start
From the start, set yourself up as a parent, but beware of the boundaries and enter the life of children slowly, respecting them. Be fair and correct, but also caring and gentle when needed. Satisfy all children’s needs without any expectation that you will get something in return. Give them time to get to know you. Show that you are ready to listen, but also share your experiences with them. Do not run away from the conflict, because psychologists claim that the relationship is established at the moment when children begin to argue with you. Be ready to be tested and gossiped about but don’t turn into a child yourself, these tests are normal. Don’t tolerate them but don’t ever stop showing the children you love them even when they do something wrong.
And never talk badly about their biological parents, nor insist on being called “Mom” or “Dad,”. Also, you have to take care that children want time alone with their parents, so do not constantly intervene. Do not, like many couples, neglect your marriage in order to strengthen the relationship with children. Both relationships should be developed at the same time. Unconditional love, honesty, fair respect and boundaries within reason is what will help you.